And regardless, we are supposed to be more then "mere animals." Society changes, those who can't change with it fall by the wayside.

So it's irrelevant whether men have to control themselves in ways that are biologically difficult, that's what we have to do. Find someone who fits or make yourself fit someone else.

No one has a right to any partner, much less any specific one.

P.S. Mathematically, most people are at or below average, and very few are very attractive. Statistics are what they are. So screw "standards" or checklists, there's someone out there, and they may not be who you expect. Be open to possibilities.