Go ahead and gripe. Men have plenty of unfair social "shoulds" but not an entire system of morals (OK, "morals") dedicated to circumscribing their lives to the extent women do.

I once read an article stating that the whole purpose of religion is to control female sexuality. I'd like to disagree, but she made some good points.

A more recent article made the point that there are in fact women who like being part of the patriarchy — but that means the men in their lives have to behave like patriarchs. If your partner wants a leader, you damn well better lead. That sounds like really hard work.

Women do have a debt to men, but it's the same debt men owe — if you're going to be partners, you have to be partners. Bring your A game. For instance do women owe men sex? I'd say yes, but only if that's part of the basis for their relationship and if he's living up to his end of the bargain.

That last bit is the part guys seem to struggle with, that the Y chromosome isn't the guarantee it used to be. Laying out the terms of the relationship isn't as unilateral as it use to be.

Guys, in a world of possibilities, there's no mechanism for issuing you a woman. And keep in mind your best choice may not be "your type" (i.e. insufficient tits and ass). Go find one who likes you — though keep in mind she'll probably expect you to like her in return.