It’s a fair number of words, but my answer can’t address most of them, because you’ve based it on ahistorical premises. For one, the judgement of women on physical appearance and homemaking was the norm in Western civilization from the beginning. This isn’t a mysterious fact and is harder to avoid than realize.

When I was a kid, with rare exceptions women weren’t allowed to get advanced university degrees. There were no male nurses or female doctors. Symphony orchestras refused to seat female musicians.

Beginning in the 1960s, the shackles began coming off. Now there are women starring in academia to become doctors and scientists, leading businesses, and musicianship is (usually) based on ability rather than gender. And I don’t think they want to go back.

Also not based on fact is this notion that somehow sexual harassment has gotten worse. You don’t think that sexual misbehavior is in any way new(?) Physical, emotion, and sexual abuse were rampant pre-21st century. Men would be indignant if they were criticized for sexist speech or unwanted sexual contact. Treating women as inferior beings whose value was appearance and sex wasn’t cause for uproar, it was the norm.

Honestly, this sould be a golden age of treating women respectfully if not for the manosphere types. It’s similar to racism — things have gotten better, but to some it may seem worse because they are only now willing to call it out.

The “rules of intersex interaction” were “men are superior and will do as they please, women will stay quiet.” Being a respectful gentleman was purely a choice that could be abandoned at any moment.

I don’t want to turn women into men. I just think they should be free to pursue whatever life path they wish rather than the old rules of only teacher, nurse, secretary, or homemaker. They should be able to display their talents and go where it takes them. Not to somehow make them men, merely provide the the same opportunities.