"Men are not a monolith. Neither are women."

I really don't think said they were. I use an awful lot of phrases like "in general" for just that reason.

"The law should treat every individual the same."

Yup. And right now our society favors men over women. And it isn't subtle.

"But then what would these culture war ideologues have left to bully people over?"

Why is women asking for equality "bullying"? Men sure do seem soft these days.,