Not sure I understand. I’m just saying that everybody has strengths and weaknesses. Before you get angry at being turned down, ask yourself if having you is better than not having you from her personal perspective. For example, I’m not young, rich, handsome, or a variety of other characteristics. I am kind, loving, supportive, and a variety of other characteristics.

If the things from column B don’t outweigh the things from column A, she’s not going to want me and I need to either improve or move on.