“Says who?”
Logic. Reason. The numbers. Observable reality. The internet seems big, but it only magnifies what gets clicks. It’s like how the media doesn’t give a completely accurate picture, but way worse.
It’s crazy rare for life to live up to the internet because only the clickable stuff makes an impact.
“I know, we shouldn’t take everything we read on internet seriously, but these people know themselves better than I do.”
Dude, the first lesson of the internet age is that you can’t trust anyone or anything you find there. It’s crawling with scammers, trolls, and all sorts of people with agendas. Does anybody believe that someone’s online persona has much to do with them? News sites that spew bullshit because it sells. “Coaches” trying to drum up business. Activists trying to stir up trouble. I wouldn’t be surprised if the number of bad-faith actors outnumbers the good.
“As for ‘settling’, I think they’re right. I’d hate to be a consolation prize for someone who actually wanted someone else, but can’t stand being alone.”
Nobody gets their first choice. Everybody settles. Which is probably for the best, because the things we look for in our teens and early 20s are not what make a happy life. Faces wrinkle. Tits sag. Abs get flabby. What’s inside is all that matters. The love of a good woman is the best part of being a man. It’s not how you found each other but that you did.
“On the topic of the top 20%, I’m not sure about that. I wouldn’t say that men like all types of bodies equally, but even women out of the ‘beauty standards (which are not imposed by men as a whole, but rather by old bitter billionaire male homosexuals based in Milan) get their thousands of likes in their Instagram photos.”
Of course. It would only be surprising if it weren’t that way. Women have always been judged first and foremost on their looks, and men love to look at hot girls. A woman who posts an even halfway sexy photo will get clicks in droves. The same is less likely for men because women are less likely to respond to the purely physical.
Men are more likely to react to a woman, and women like reacting to each other. So, even less attractive women will get more clicks than most men.
But — crucially — clicks on Instagram are phantom nonsense, signifying nothing of substance. It’s not real life. It’s a crazy internet distortion of life.
“Those other girls, from my point of view, are getting attention. Where are the hordes of women running after the balding, short, obese guy?”
I’d ask, where are the hordes of men running after obese, flat-chested women?
There aren’t any. Because be it men or women, only conventionally attractive people attract hordes. The further you get down the desirability scale, the less attention you will draw.
I recently commented that I believe for every man, there’s a woman somewhere who could love him if he gives her the chance. The response was, “Yeah, an obese 3/10.”
Well, if we’re dividing women on a 1–10 scale, then men should get the same treatment. If your hypothetical balding obese guy is a 3/10, then a 3/10 woman is what he should expect. Men’s advantage is that they can affect their attractiveness quite a bit. A woman with 3/10 looks is going to struggle for attention. But a physically 3/10 guy can have a good job, dress well, learn to dance, learn to cook, treat women honestly and with respect, support the social and political causes affecting them, etc. He can improve his standing quite a bit.
